I’m Lucy and I’m the creator of You Don’t Own Me.

Welcome to YDOM an organisation dedicated to breaking down the stigmas surrounding domestic abuse and post-separation abuse. Through education and open conversation, we aim to create a society where domestic abuse is understood and discussed.

The Reality We Need to Face.

At some point in your life, you will know someone affected by domestic abuse – a family member, friend, colleague, or even yourself. Yet conversations about abuse often remain hushed, making it difficult for those suffering to seek help.

That’s why ydom.co.uk was created: to break down stigmas and open up vital conversations about the complexities of domestic abuse.

Abusers methodically work to control their victim’s entire existence – what they wear, who they see, where they live, what they eat, and eventually, what they believe about themselves. This control creates a prison without visible bars, making escape extraordinarily difficult.

Finding support can feel overwhelming when you’re in an abusive situation or trying to help someone who is. The complexity of emotions – shame, fear, love for the abuser – creates significant barriers.

We need now, more than ever, to open up conversations around domestic abuse. By creating discussion and ensuring inclusion, we can help people understand the impact of abuse and reduce the stigma that keeps victims silent.

My background:

I’ve worked in the charity sector for many years including working as the Victim Voice Facilitator for Trafford Domestic Abuse Services in Manchester. Working within the community and meeting extraordinary people! Facilitating groups and working with service users in the community and on a one to one basis. Qualifications: BA (Hons) degree from Bangor University / Trauma informed Training through the Nelson Trust (CPD)  / Understanding domestic abuse and trauma bonds through York Women’s Counselling Service (CPD) / Conflict Management Training / Voice of the Child Training / LGBTQ+ housing and homelessness / Parental Mental Health Training / WETA Women’s Empowerment Through the Arts / Understanding ACEs (Adverse childhood experiences)