"Have you heard the rumour about….” …is one of the most damaging things anyone can say about another human being. And if the subject of the rumour and speculation is or has been the victim of domestic abuse, you have no idea the potential level ...
My daughter said something this week…
It took me a minute to digest what she said. On a typical Thursday evening in the Wade household, while I was organising her packed lunch, sorting washing, making dinner and doing the usual 50,000 other jobs that need to be done..... She told m ...
Walking a mile in someone else’s shoes
...will only give you blisters! But eventually, you'll forget the pain. For those friends and family who are trying to support loved ones who have or are experiencing domestic abuse. Trying to understand, or know what to say can be painful. Vi ...
Domestic Abuse – They are not an Image
They are NOT one image....... Domestic Abuse Awareness isn't just about an image in a campaign for one month out of the year. It's so, so, much more than that. It's about the thousands of images that make up a person's li ...
Picture this! It’s 1999…
Picture this! It's 1999, and you're a university student. You decide you need a part time job at university to help you afford your weekly food shop....and the odd watered down beer at the Student's Union. So you get a job in a local night club. ...
Hide in Plain Sight – The Charmer
So often we have a preconceived idea of what a perpetrator is. Until recent years, what was lesser understood and accepted was that a perpetrator could be someone in a position of authority. Growing up, I lived in a society where we respected and ...
Optimism versus Hope – Abuse
When I woke up this morning, I remembered a very vivid dream I had last night about one word. Despair. I very rarely can remember my dreams. More often than not I am exceedingly grateful for that. But this dream was so vivid ...
Domestic Abuse: Post-Separation
Post-separation abuse is something we don't talk about nearly enough. But is it because we're not really sure what it means? I touch on this subject with Sam Fisher, CEO at Trafford Domestic Abuse Services in our podcast episode. Post-separ ...
Abusive relationships – Shame
Shame plays a devastating role in emotional abuse. It can make you feel so worthless and so alone. In an abusive relationship, shame is used to control a victim's feelings and emotions. This makes the abuser feel empowered and in control ...
Supporting your Well-Being
In recent years the term, well-being has become more prevalent. We talk about our physical well-being, mental well-being, spiritual well-being and so on.... I think it's fair to say quite a few of us in life will have a "rock bottom" moment. That ...